Gift of Therapy: An Open Letter to a New Generation of Therapists and Their Patients Book

	Introduction
	Acknowledgments
Ch. 1	Remove the Obstacles to Growth	1
Ch. 2	Avoid Diagnosis (Except for Insurance Companies)	4
Ch. 3	Therapist and Patient as "Fellow Travelers,"	6
Ch. 4	Engage the Patient	11
Ch. 5	Be Supportive	13
Ch. 6	Empathy: Looking Out the Patient's Window	17
Ch. 7	Teach Empathy	23
Ch. 8	Let the Patient Matter to You	26
Ch. 9	Acknowledge Your Errors	30
Ch. 10	Create a New Therapy for Each Patient	33
Ch. 11	The Therapeutic Act, Not the Therapeutic Word	37
Ch. 12	Engage in Personal Therapy	40
Ch. 13	The Therapist Has Many Patients; The Patient, One Therapist	44
Ch. 14	The Here-and-Now - Use It, Use It, Use It	46
Ch. 15	Why Use the Here-and-Now?	47
Ch. 16	Using the Here-and-Now - Grow Rabbit Ears	49
Ch. 17	Search for Here-and-Now Equivalents	52
Ch. 18	Working Through Issues in the Here-and-Now	58
Ch. 19	The Here-and-Now Energizes Therapy	62
Ch. 20	Use Your Own Feelings as Data	65
Ch. 21	Frame Here-and-Now Comments Carefully	68
Ch. 22	All Is Grist for the Here-and-Now Mill	70
Ch. 23	Check into the Here-and-Now Each Hour	72
Ch. 24	What Lies Have You Told Me?	74
Ch. 25	Blank Screen? Forget It! Be Real	75
Ch. 26	Three Kinds of Therapist Self-Disclosure	83
Ch. 27	The Mechanism of Therapy - Be Transparent	84
Ch. 28	Revealing Here-and-Now Feelings - Use Discretion	87
Ch. 29	Revealing the Therapist's Personal Life - Use Caution	90
Ch. 30	Revealing Your Personal Life - Caveats	94
Ch. 31	Therapist Transparency and Universality	97
Ch. 32	Patients Will Resist Your Disclosure	99
Ch. 33	Avoid the Crooked Cure	102
Ch. 34	On Taking Patients Further Than You Have Gone	104
Ch. 35	On Being Helped by Your Patient	106
Ch. 36	Encourage Patient Self-Disclosure	109
Ch. 37	Feedback in Psychotherapy	112
Ch. 38	Provide Feedback Effectively and Gently	115
Ch. 39	Increase Receptiveness to Feedback by Using "Parts,"	119
Ch. 40	Feedback: Strike When the Iron Is Cold	121
Ch. 41	Talk About Death	124
Ch. 42	Death and Life Enhancement	126
Ch. 43	How to Talk About Death	129
Ch. 44	Talk About Life Meaning	133
Ch. 45	Freedom	137
Ch. 46	Helping Patients Assume Responsibility	139
Ch. 47	Never (Almost Never) Make Decisions for the Patient	142
Ch. 48	Decisions: A Via Regia into Existential Bedrock	146
Ch. 49	Focus on Resistance to Decision	148
Ch. 50	Facilitating Awareness by Advice Giving	150
Ch. 51	Facilitating Decisions - Other Devices	155
Ch. 52	Conduct Therapy as a Continuous Session	158
Ch. 53	Take Notes of Each Session	160
Ch. 54	Encourage Self-Monitoring	162
Ch. 55	When Your Patient Weeps	164
Ch. 56	Give Yourself Time Between Patients	166
Ch. 57	Express Your Dilemmas Openly	168
Ch. 58	Do Home Visits	171
Ch. 59	Don't Take Explanation Too Seriously	174
Ch. 60	Therapy-Accelerating Devices	179
Ch. 61	Therapy as a Dress Rehearsal for Life	182
Ch. 62	Use the Initial Complaint as Leverage	184
Ch. 63	Don't Be Afraid of Touching Your Patient	187
Ch. 64	Never Be Sexual with Patients	191
Ch. 65	Look for Anniversary and Life-Stage Issues	195
Ch. 66	Never Ignore "Therapy Anxiety,"	197
Ch. 67	Doctor, Take Away My Anxiety	200
Ch. 68	On Being Love's Executioner	201
Ch. 69	Taking a History	206
Ch. 70	A History of the Patient's Daily Schedule	208
Ch. 71	How Is the Patient's Life Peopled?	210
Ch. 72	Interview the Significant Other	211
Ch. 73	Explore Previous Therapy	213
Ch. 74	Sharing the Shade of the Shadow	215
Ch. 75	Freud Was Not Always Wrong	217
Ch. 76	CBT Is Not What It's Cracked Up to Be ... Or, Don't Be Afraid of the EVT Boogeyman	222
Ch. 77	Dreams - Use Them, Use Them, Use Them	225
Ch. 78	Full Interpretation of a Dream? Forget It!	227
Ch. 79	Use Dreams Pragmatically: Pillage and Loot	228
Ch. 80	Master Some Dream Navigational Skills	235
Ch. 81	Learn About the Patients's Life from Dreams	238
Ch. 82	Pay Attention to the First Dream	243
Ch. 83	Attend Carefully to Dreams About the Therapist	246
Ch. 84	Beware the Occupational Hazards	251
Ch. 85	Cherish the Occupational Privileges	256
	Notes	261