Ten stupid things men do to mess up their lives Book

I listened to this an audiobook which is way too abridged. The paperback added a lot more scolding. Well, Dr. Laura is actually just up the road from me in Scotts Valley, CA. She has been on local radio forever. This book is actually the sequel to her '10 Stupid Things Women Do...'. Most men my age will find themselves described perfectly somewhere in this book. How many Ten Commandments have you broken?

This book pretty much outlines all the ways that men sabotage their own *family* lives in the pursuit of cheap thrills such as money, sex, power, ambition (career), youthfullness, but doesn't stop there and includes marriage, pity and even chivalry. Hmmmm. Are all those 'stupid' things really bad? Well, no, but they are when us merely human men put them above the greater needs of our families and thus society as a whole. This theory can be distilled simply to this: that families are the basic building block of society and we (men AND women) need to sacrifice - or at least think smarter - in order to create more compassionate, meaningful family lives. Fair enough, I say. I'd wish I'd read this book during my cocksure days in college and immediately beyond. The only thing these types of books fail to address is that life is fluid, and PEOPLE CHANGE. Sometimes drastically so. Since both the hubby and wife are going to continue to change throught their lives and thus their marriage and relationship will change, too. So, the marriage needs to change, too. And if it doesn't (for whatever reasons), it falls apart. Basically it comes down to communication and acceptance. We all need to keep open and honest communication *especially* with our spouses - or ultimately suffer alone. Honesty and openness should seem so easy to most of us. But it's all the 'stupid' things that Dr Laura describes that keep us from that.
So her advise is: choose carefully, and always keep talking and listening. Ask yourself what is really important in this life. And then try not to forget it! Highly recommended, even if you don't agree.