The complete idiot's guide to the art of seduction Book

The Complete Idiot's Guide to the Art of Seduction

Part 1: Becoming a Modern-Day Seductress or Seducer

Chapter 1: Redefining Seduction

A Thousand Years of Good Intent

How Do You Tell the "Good" From the "Bad"?

Nonsexual Seduction: The Good, the Bad, and the Downright Ugly

Sexual Seduction: The Sublime and the Squalid

There's No Such Thing As a One-Night Stand: Seduction Has Lasting Effects

General Seductiveness: The Elements of Allure

Ingredients to Cast a Seductive Spell

Chapter 2: Goal Setting: The Proactive Approach to Seduction

Whose Life Is It, Anyway?

Maybe S/he's Born with It...But Probably Not

Short-Term Goals: The First Person You Must Seduce Is Yourself

Long-Term Goals: Attracting Who You Want

You Can Get There From Here: Putting Your Best Self Forward All the Time

Chapter 3: Physical Attraction: Looking Seductive

Is Your Presence a Sensual Delight or a Sensory Assault?

Grooming and Hygiene

Fitness and Health

It's Better than You Think: Adjusting Your Body Image

Even Cindy Crawford Doesn't Look Like Cindy Crawford...

Chiseled or Voluptuous? Achieving Your Personal Best Physique

You Wear It Well

What the Sirens Knew

Knowing Your Style Requires Knowing Yourself

Chapter 4: Intellectual Magnetism: Your Brain Is the Most Erogenous Part of Your Body

What Makes You Sexy? Your Thoughts

Your Intellectual Presence

Curiosity Livened Up the Cat

A World of Things to Be Curious About

Being Genius Enough to Admit to Ignorance

Chapter 5: Emotional Seductiveness: Creating Those Warm, Fuzzy Feelings

What's Your Compassion Quotient?

Feelings...Nothing More Than Feelings...

Learning to Listen: Using Your Ears and Your Heart

Fools Rush In, But Seductive People Listen

Learning How to "Resonate" with Someone

Laughter Is the Best Medicine (and the Best Aphrodisiac to Boot)

To Make Others Like You, Like Them

Emotional Seductiveness Creates a Win-Win Situation

Chapter 6: Spirit or Essence: All the Elements of Seductiveness... and More

What Color Is Your Aura?

Spirit, Essence, or Whatever You Want to Call It: It's What Makes You You

Self-Confidence: Where Does It Come From?

Essential Elements: Character and Intent

Self-Worth: The Reflection of Your Essence

Part 2: Attracting Dates: Casting Your Spell

Chapter 7: The Ultimate Seductress: A Man's Perspective

His Description of a Sexy Woman

The Real Deal

"Drop-Dead Gorgeous" Defined

Seductive Is As Seductive Does

The Spirit of the Enchantress...Making It or Breaking It Without Lifting a Finger

Chapter 8: The Ultimate Seducer: A Woman's Perspective

The Most Important Game You May Ever Play

Focus Makes Her Heart Grow Fonder

Forget the "Strong, Silent" Approach--Open Up!

Cleanliness Is Next to, Well, Her!

Romancing the "Little Woman" Ain't What It Used to Be

Chapter 9: Meeting Attractive People: Matching Your Destination with Your Expectation

Where in the World

Clubs and Bars: Keep Your Eyes Open, Your Head Clear, and Your Boots On

Attention Shoppers! There's a Macarena Contest in the Produce Section in 15 Minutes!

Singles Night at the Local Bookstore/Coffee Bar: Sometimes You Can Tell a Book by

Its Cover

No Matter How Weird It Is, There's Bound to Be a Group for It

Religious Groups: Who's There to Pray and Who's There to Prey?

The Internet: Getting Lucky Online

Personal Ads: Learning to Read Between the Lines

Dating Services: A Viable Alternative

What Are Friends For!

Unexpected Places: It's Not So Much Where You Go As What You Bring

Chapter 10: The Approach: Putting All That Preparation to Work

Like, What's Your Sign? Probably "Stop!"

When Silence Is Golden...and When to Break That Silence

Looking Interested, Not Desperate

What? Ask Him Out?

Platonic Pothole or Road to Romance? You Decide

Popping the Question (No, Not That One, Silly! Asking Someone for a Date)

Chapter 11: Romantic Signals: How to Read Them and How to Give Them

Developing Your "Body Literacy"

Eye Contact: Magic or Menace?

Body Talk: Saying It Without Words

Seduction: It's More than Mental--It's Also a Contact Sport

Chapter 12: Flirting: Tickle, Tease, or Torture

The Flavors of Flirting

Hope for the Flirt-O-Phobe

Testing, Testing: One, Two...Wow!

As God Is My Witness, I Shall Never Flirt Destructively Again!

Flirting As a Prelude to Passion

Chapter 13: A Seductive Guide to "the Big D": The Date

The Beginning: Getting Off to a Great Start

During the Date: Keeping It Fun (and Seductive!)

The End? Going Gentle Into That Good Night...

Rate Your Date

Part 3: A Night to Remember

Chapter 14: Should We or Shouldn't We?

Sex in the '90s and Beyond: A Cautionary Note

When More Than Your Imagination Is Fertile

When Lust Hits, Go Slow

Enjoy the Moment, But Don't Forget to Look Ahead

The Bottom Line: Choose with Care

Chapter 15: Setting the Stage for Seduction

I Had This Dream About You...

Welcome to Fantasy Island

Secrets for the Seductress

Secrets for the Seducer

Chapter 16: Pre-Game Jitters

His Fears

Her Fears

Shared Fears

Primal Fears

Reality Bites Back

The First Three Times Don't Count

Take That Fear and...Transform It!

Chapter 17: Tonight's the Night: Lovemaking 101

Getting Started: When...and How?

Relax! It's Not a Competition

Easing into the Situation

Tips for the Sizzling Seductress

The Sweet Seducer: Not Just the Same Old In-And-Out

Afterplay

Chapter 18: A Seductive Potpourri: Tips and Tricks to Make the Night Complete

Seductive Is As Seductive Thinks

A Lair to Lure Your Love

The Added Seduction of the Unexpected

Clothes Encounters of the Seductive Kind

More Props for Your Passion Play

Kiss Me, Kiss Me, Kiss Me!

...And Other Oral Delights

I Sing the Body Erotic

Part 4: Seduction Is Forever

Chapter 19: There's Got to Be a Morning After

Got the Morning-After Blues from My Head Down to My Shoes

Encore...or Final Curtain?

Do Unto Others...

Maintaining the Intrigue: Setting the Stage for Next Time

Chapter 20: Keeping It Intriguing: Understanding Needs Beyond the Bedroom

The Laws of the Gender Jungle

You're on a Journey Together, So Don't Forget the Souvenirs

Adventures Along the Way

You Fill Up My Senses...

Let's Get Physical

Chapter 21: Keeping It Spicy: Fanning the Flames with Fantasies and Games

Preventing Fantasy Faux Pas

Sustaining the Spice with Sexy Play

Men's Most Powerful Fantasies

Women's Most Powerful Fantasies

Share and Share Alike

Chapter 22: What's Love Got to Do with It?

When Love Is on the Agenda (Whether You Planned It or Not)

Just What the Heck Is True Love, Anyway?

Love Means Never Having to Say You're Static

So...Where Does Seduction Fit into This?

Can We Talk About Commitment?

Seduction Can Be Forever--Make It So!

Let Love and Seduction Feed on Each Other

Appendices

Appendix A: Resources

Books

Instructional Videos

Appendix B: The Language of Seduction: A Wordplay Glossary

Appendix C: Steamy Seduction Tales

Seductresses at Work

Seducers' Success Stories

Index