Shyness: A Bold New Approach Book

In Shyness, Bernardo J. Carducci, Ph.D., draws on more than twenty years of research to penetrate the many myths and mysteries surrounding shyness. Through compelling case studies, a comprehensive presentation of the latest discoveries, and numerous self-help strategies and self-assessment quizzes, Dr. Carducci helps to enlighten and encourage shy people who feel isolated and misunderstood. In Shyness, Carducci explains the basic principles of shyness; discuses the psychical, mental, and emotional expressions of shyness; and explores the biological, psychological, and societal roots of this trait. In addition, Dr. Carducci traces the manifestations of shyness at different life stages. In an age of instantaneous, on-line electronic interpersonal relationships, he outlines the specific challenges facing shy individuals in contemporary society.

Shyness is not about transforming shy people into extroverts. Its principal mission is to promote what Dr. Carducci calls "the successfully shy life"—one of self-awareness, self-acceptance, and self-confidence. He provides such easy-to-implement strategies as:

• managing your shyness when meeting new people
• managing your shyness at work
• making small talk
• initiating romantic relationships
• parenting shy children

What is shyness? What causes it? Are we born shy or do we become shy? Is there a cure?

Shyness affects millions of us—nearly half the population describes itself as shy—and between 76 and 95 percent of us, though not shy now, have been shy at some point in our lives.

Shy Facts

• Shy children are not destined to be shy adults.
• Shyness does not equal low self-esteem.
• Shyness is not a "disease," personality deficit, or character flaw.
• Humans aren't the only species to experience shyness. Scientist have been studying she cattle as well as shy cats, shy fish, and shy dogs.
• Some of the world's most famous, richest, smartest, and bravest people are shy.