ESO Book

Many sex guides suggest techniques; this one teaches an approach through which one can learn and invent new ways of touching and being with each other. And it's not just useful for couples – there's a lot of useful material in here for solo exploration, too. While some techniques are described, they are offered with a degree of humility that invites you to experiment.

They (wisely) recommend that partnered activities wait until each person has attained a certain level of skill on his or her own. You've got to show that your engine works before you ask someone else to make you purr. And you will purr, or make whatever other noises you're inclined to make, when you've trained your partner how to handle you properly.

The advice is pretty simple: learn to talk with each other, tell each other what you like and don't like, and take turns demonstrating the former. While they offer some structured exercises through which to apply these principles, and a few suggestions for initial exploration, this book is neither prescriptive nor proscriptive.

My two favorite things I learned from this book, I learned experimentally, by following their suggestions:
1) I learned that it's possible to give, and to receive, a climax that lasts 90 minutes or more.
2) I learned how to do that.

I think my second favorite would have to be the kissing exercise.