Dyke life Book

	Acknowledgments
	Welcome to Dyke Life: An Introduction	1
1	Are We Family? Lesbians and Families of Origin	19
	An Afternoon with My If-There-Were-a-Laws	23
	At Home	27
	A New Political Twist	33
2	Finding a "Word for Myself": Themes in Lesbian Coming-Out Stories	36
	What I Should Have Said	45
3	At the Crossroads: Lesbian Youth	50
	GWF ISO	55
4	Lesbian Baby Boomers at Midlife	61
	It Is a Large Future	65
	The Start of Something Big	69
	Circles and Rings: A Woman's Ritual	73
5	We Never Promised You Role Models	77
	RV Life Begins at Seventy	87
6	Lesbian Couples	97
	About Being an Old Lesbian in Love	99
	Breaking Up	102
	Bridge	105
7	Procrasti-dating	107
8	Lesbian Marriage Ceremonies: I Do	111
	June Brides	119
9	Our Relationships and Their Laws	127
10	What's Race Got to Do with It?	141
11	Creating Lesbian Families	149
	To Mother or Not to Mother	157
12	Our Children and Their Laws	170
13	Lesbian Parenting: Radical or Retrograde?	174
	Pride and Prejudice	177
	Mother of Stephen	181
	Public Schools/Private Lives	184
14	Clit Notes	195
	Psychic Armor	199
	Body Piercing	202
	Confessions of a Lesbian Vampire	207
	My First Dildo	212
15	Safer Sex	216
	My First Lover	219
16	Guessing Games	221
	WYSIWYG (What You See Isn't What You Get)	228
17	Butch Mothers, Femme Bull Dykes: Dismantling Our Own Stereotypes	247
18	Double Trouble	257
19	Black Lace Hairbow	260
20	Lesbians in Corporate America	265
	Tales of a Suburban Columnist	273
21	She Tickles with a Hammer	282
	Something About Pride	289
22	Outing and the Politics of the Closet	295
	"Oy Veh, the Judge on the Bench Is a Dyke!"	299
	Something Snapped	302
	San Francisco Spice Rack	305
23	Health Care Issues	313
	After the First Visit	319
	Another Story	322
	A Letter from Anita	327
24	Outlaws and Addicts: Lesbians and the Recovery Movement	332
25	Who Cares? Lesbians As Caregivers	344
	The Dog, the Cat, and the Activist	353
	Contributors' Notes	363