Becoming a counselor Book

	Preface	ix
	About the Author	xi
Section 1	Initiation Into the Profession
1.	The Calling	3
2.	Encountering the Unexpected: Bandits	5
3.	"Uh-Huh" Is Never Enough	7
4.	The Locked Ward	9
	Points to Ponder	11
Section 2	Finding What Works
5.	Talk Is Cheap	15
6.	Socks	17
7.	Tex Ritter Smith	19
8.	Playing Hunches	21
9.	Consultant or Catalyst	23
10.	Sometimes It Is How You Ask the Question	25
11.	Three Acres of Garlic	27
12.	The Words Are There/I Don't Know Where	29
13.	The Music of Life	31
14.	Knowledge Is Power Up to a Point	33
	Points to Ponder	35
Section 3	Learning From Failure
15.	Sleepy Time Client	39
16.	Bo: A Disaster in Assessment	41
17.	Rabbits	43
18.	Testing a Theory: The Sound of Silence	45
19.	Be Modest	47
20.	A Door, a Phone, a Window	49
21.	The Price of Being Ill-Prepared	51
22.	The Wrong Side of Presentations	53
23.	Learning the Lingo	55
24.	The Wake-Up Dream	57
	Points to Ponder	58
Section 4	Skills and Processes
25.	The Basics	61
26.	The Difficulty of Change	63
27.	The Pace of Change	65
28.	Boundaries: An Awakening	67
29.	Modeling: A Case of Starlings	69
30.	Mr. TBA: The Importance of Knowing Others	71
31.	Empathy	73
32.	Afraid of Blood	75
33.	Omelets	77
	Points to Ponder	78
Section 5	Multicultural and Spiritual Considerations
34.	An Encounter With the Klan	81
35.	Shirley	83
36.	WASPs	85
37.	Spirits, Spirituality, and Counseling	87
38.	Putting on the Gloves With Mother Teresa	89
39.	Getting There	91
	Points to Ponder	92
Section 6	The Influences of Colleagues, Friends, and Family
40.	The Office	95
41.	Happenstance: Note Whom You Quote	97
42.	Sources Within	99
43.	Cool Under Fire	101
44.	Scars	103
45.	Courtland, the Turkeys, and Me in Knoxville, Tennessee	105
	Points to Ponder	107
Section 7	Working With Groups and Families
46.	The Other Side of Labels	111
47.	The Power of Nancy Drew	113
48.	Airtime	115
49.	Three's a Crowd but Four's a Family Counseling Session	117
50.	Sex Therapy: The Challenge	119
51.	Drama Break	121
52.	An Unexpected Reconciliation: Laura Ashley	123
53.	Humor	125
54.	Research and a Reframe Within the Family	127
55.	Words Alone	129
	Points to Ponder	130
Section 8	Professional Development
56.	Supervision	133
57.	Court: The Rules of the Game	135
58.	Research and Theory: A Reminder From Carl	137
59.	My Pal Sal	139
60.	Thunder and Poetry	141
61.	Who Wants to Work?	143
62.	The Phony Prisoner	145
63.	Not by Work Alone	147
64.	Rejection	149
65.	Counselors Anonymous	151
	Points to Ponder	152
Section 9	Developmental Considerations
66.	Aging But Not Developing	155
67.	Trees With Lights	157
68.	Don't Take It Literally	159
69.	Erotic or Erratic: What a Difference a Word Makes	161
70.	Lost	163
71.	Resiliency and Unpredictability	165
72.	Finding a Vision That Works	167
	Points to Ponder	168
Section 10	Termination
73.	The Quilt	171
74.	Hair	173
75.	On Grief and Gratitude	175
76.	Always Becoming	177
	Points to Ponder	178
	Epilogue	179
	Notes	181
	References	183