Erotic surrender Book

I was looking for a read that explored the dynamism of female sexuality through the lens of dom/sub relations (emphasis on the sub, of course).

I started the read curious, but have hit a wall with this one. I'm not sure I'll be able to finish it, and I really hate to leave books unfinished. EDIT: i finished it. thank god.

I feel like the author is defensive at points (I can't provide examples, as I haven't picked it up in 3 weeks!). Quite frankly, I find defensiveness in a narrator a total bore. It's a book about female sexuality -- I shouldn't have to read bullshit disclaimers or weird, quasi-desperate ramblings (aimed at misogynists or conservative readers?) because the author has a fear of being judged unfairly.

I just have a hard time relating to the subject matter seriously -- but maybe I'm taking too hard a feminist line with this one.

Things I like: it appears fairly comprehensive, though I'm always curious to read more about age play. I think some of the "exercises" are interesting, and the references included (think: list of phrases, dom/sub pairings, sexual games, etc.) are pretty rad. The author's personal examples are relevant and illustrate the "section" well.