Healing Violent Men Book

	Preface
1	Violent Men in Our Communities: The Dynamics of Intimate Violence	1
	The Ambiguity of Reconciliation	3
	Encountering Violent Men: Revulsion and Hope	5
	Working with Violent Men	6
	The Dynamics of Domestic Violence	7
	The Stages of Violence	12
	Power and Control	15
	The Possibility of Healing	24
2	Violence: Destruction of the Mysterious Human Center	26
	Cultural Influences on Violent Men	26
	Are Men Inherently Violent Creatures?	29
	The Hydraulic Model	30
	A Girardian Interpretation of Violence	32
	Ready to Snap like a Mousetrap	34
	Gender and Violence	35
	Media and Violence	37
	Interpreting Violence as Constructive or Destructive	38
	Crime and Punishment: Constructive or Destructive Violence?	39
	The Warnings Offered by Violence	44
3	Does Christianity Throw Gas on the Flames of Violence?	47
	The Classic Symbol of Marriage	48
	The Marriage of Hosea	49
	Historical Christian Interpretations of Marriage	50
	Wives Be Submissive	53
	Rape in Marriage	54
	The Theodicy Question	56
	Marriage as a Symbol of Hope	57
	Images of the Divine	59
	God in Control	59
	God as Omniscient and Omnipresent	61
	God's Vulnerability in Christ	62
4	Reconciliation: A Model for Addressing Male Violence	64
	The Biblical Logic of Reconciliation	66
	Reconciliation in the Early Christian Tradition	67
	A Thomistic Interpretation of Reconciliation	69
	Contrition	70
	Confession	74
	Satisfaction	76
	Absolution	77
5	Reconciliation: A Responsible Approach to Intimate Violence	81
	Scarring: An Important Metaphor for Understanding Violence	83
	Healing the Individual: Reconciliation in the Individual Sphere	85
	Contrition: The Recognition of the Face	87
	Confession, Satisfaction, and Absolution	87
	Healing the Interhuman Sphere	89
	Healing the Community: The Social Level of Reconciliation	93
	The Dialectic of Reconciliation	96
App. 1	Indicators That a Man May Kill His Partner	99
App. 2	Accountability	102
App. 3	Control Log: Men's Education Groups	104
App. 4	An Annotated Website Bibliography	106
	Notes	109
	Selected Bibliography	121
	Index	127