The pornography of representation Book

Some of the advice is simplistic, some insightful. The book, written by therapists who have treated dozens of addicts, does a good job of describing the shame that addicts feel. It also describes the reaction of spouses well. For example:
"Feelings of betrayal, disappointment, sexual inadequacy and rejection can last for many months, even years, well past when the angry outbursts and crying spells have ended. Women often suffer in internal psychological ways that can be difficult for the porn user to see or understand. A woman's self-esteem, sense of security and ability to feel open and sexually responsive are often profoundly wounded. Porn users are often surprised at how much continued suffering their partners report. The length of time a woman feels hurt depends in large part on how well her partner responds to her feelings and what steps he takes to address the porn problem that results in regaining her trust and rebuilding intimacy in the relationship."