The Social organization of power in the academy's disability policy Book

Too academic for my current tastes, but there were some real gems in the "Myth of Control" section.
A quote:
"People with disabilities or incurable illnesses often find that long after they have accepted the conditions of their bodies, their friends and acquaintances want them to continue looking for cures. Out of kindness and a wish to help, but also frequently because of a frantic desire not to be forced to believe that the body cannot be controlled, people offer endless advice about possible treatments. "I know you're tried naturopathy, but you haven't been to *my* naturopath." To turn down a suggestion is to risk the judgment that you do not want to get well. To pursue every suggestion is a full-time job (with a price tag instead of a paycheck). For people with life-threatening illnesses, pressures from loved ones to seek a cure can consume their remaining time in medical and quasi-medical quests." p. 97

Another quote:
"...the first commandment of sickness is....Get well or die. Your not getting well depresses everyone--the doctors who have tried to fix you, your friends and relatives, even people who hardly know you. Your hanging around without recovering reminds them that not everything, not even everything terribly important, can be fixed." p. 105