Fighting for your marriage Book

If you're even thinking that you might possibly need to do something about your marriage, you DO need to do something. This book is as good as any on the market for starting you on that path. Two thirds are dedicated to conflict and other bad things (because one bad event outweighs a whole host of neutral or even good events), and one third is dedicated to being friends, pumping up your enjoyment, and other good things. There are a lot of "real life" examples of somewhat questionable helpfulness, but that's pretty typical. There are also exercises at the end of every chapter to help you implement the chapter's suggestions.
The authors are realistic. Yes, the speaker-listener technique feels phony and silly, but it also helps conflict to be productive instead of incendiary, so use it anyway. No, you will not be able to solve all of your disagreements, but understanding each other will make it so that your disagreements don't tear your marriage apart. Yes, some of your expectations are probably unrealistic. Yes, everyone needs to give a little.
Heck, reading this book can't possibly make your marriage worse. I say, give it a shot.