I never knew I had a choice Book

Chapter 1	Invitation to Personal Learning and Growth	3
	Where Am I Now?	3
	Choice and Change	4
	A Model for Personal Growth	8
	Are You an Active Learner?	19
	Multiple Intelligences and Multiple Learning Styles	21
	Getting the Most From This Book: Suggestions for Personal Learning	28
	Summary	31
	Where Can I Go From Here?	32
	The Rogers Indicator of Multiple Intelligences	35
	Resources for Future Study	40
Chapter 2	Reviewing Your Childhood and Adolescence	43
	Where Am I Now?	43
	Stages of Personality Development: A Preview	44
	Infancy	50
	Early Childhood	53
	Impact of the First 6 Years of Life	57
	Middle Childhood	59
	Pubescence	65
	Adolescence	66
	Summary	69
	Where Can I Go From Here?	70
	Resources for Future Study	70
Chapter 3	Adulthood and Autonomy	73
	Where Am I Now?	73
	The Struggle Toward Autonomy and Interdependence	74
	Stages of Adulthood	90
	Early Adulthood	91
	Middle Adulthood	97
	Late Middle Age	102
	Late Adulthood	104
	Summary	111
	Where Can I Go From Here?	112
	Resources for Future Study	113
Chapter 4	Your Body and Wellness	117
	Where Am I Now?	117
	Wellness and Life Choices	119
	Maintaining Sound Health Practices	126
	Your Bodily Identity	135
	Summary	146
	Where Can I Go From Here?	147
	Resources for Future Study	147
Chapter 5	Managing Stress	151
	Where Am I Now?	151
	Sources of Stress	153
	Effects of Stress	156
	Destructive Reactions to Stress	161
	Constructive Responses to Stress	164
	Time Management	168
	Money Management	170
	Meditation	171
	Mindfulness	174
	Deep Relaxation	175
	Yoga	177
	Therapeutic Massage	178
	Summary	181
	Where Can I Go From Here?	181
	Resources for Future Study	183
Chapter 6	Love	187
	Where Am I Now?	187
	Love Makes a Difference	189
	Barriers to Loving and Being Loved	190
	Is It Worth It to Love?	200
	Learning to Love and Appreciate Ourselves	202
	Inauthentic and Authentic Love	203
	Summary	209
	Where Can I Go From Here?	209
	Resources for Future Study	210
Chapter 7	Relationships	213
	Where Am I Now?	213
	Types of Intimacy	214
	Meaningful Relationships: A Personal View	218
	Anger and Conflict in Relationships	224
	Dealing With Communication Blocks	230
	Gay and Lesbian Relationships	235
	Separation and Divorce	241
	Summary	247
	Where Can I Go From Here?	248
	Resources for Future Study	250
Chapter 8	Becoming the Woman or Man You Want to be	253
	Where Am I Now?	253
	Male Roles	254
	Female Roles	264
	Alternatives to Rigid Gender-Role Expectations	275
	Summary	278
	Where Can I Go From Here?	279
	Resources for Future Study	280
Chapter 9	Sexuality	283
	Where Am I Now?	283
	Misconceptions About Sexuality	284
	Developing Your Own Sexual Values	285
	Learning to Talk Openly About Sexual Issues	288
	Sex and Guilt	290
	Learning to Enjoy Sensuality and Sexuality	293
	Sex and Intimacy	296
	AIDS: A Contemporary Crisis	299
	Other Sexually Transmitted Diseases	307
	Sexual Abuse and Harassment	309
	Summary	317
	Where Can I Go From Here?	319
	Resources for Future Study	319
Chapter 10	Work and Recreation	323
	Where Am I Now?	323
	Your College Education as Your Work	325
	Choosing an Occupation or Career	328
	The Process of Deciding on a Career	338
	Choices at Work	342
	Changing Careers in Midlife	346
	Retirement	347
	The Place of Work and Recreation in Your Life	350
	Summary	355
	Where Can I Go From Here?	356
	Resources for Future Study	359
Chapter 11	Loneliness and Solitude	363
	Where Am I Now?	363
	The Value of Loneliness and Solitude	364
	Learning to Confront the Fear of Loneliness	366
	Creating Our Own Loneliness Through Shyness	369
	Loneliness and Our Life Stages	373
	Summary	384
	Where Can I Go From Here?	385
	Resources for Future Study	386
Chapter 12	Death and Loss	389
	Where Am I Now?	389
	Our Fears of Death	391
	Death and the Meaning of Life	393
	Suicide: Ultimate Choice or Ultimate Cop-Out?	397
	Freedom in Dying	400
	The Stages of Death and Loss	403
	Grieving Over Death, Separation, and Other Losses	409
	Being "Dead" Psychologically and Socially	413
	How Well Are You Living Life?	418
	Summary	418
	Where Can I Go From Here?	419
	Resources for Future Study	420
Chapter 13	Meaning and Values	423
	Where Am I Now?	423
	Our Quest for Identity	424
	Our Search for Meaning and Purpose	427
	The Foundations of Meaning	429
	Our Values in Action	435
	Embracing Diversity	438
	The Quick Discrimination Index	442
	Summary	445
	Where Can I Go From Here?	445
	Resources for Future Study	448
Chapter 14	Pathways to Personal Growth	451
	Where Am I Now?	451
	Pathways for Continued Self-Exploration	452
	Counseling as a Path to Self-Understanding	454
	Dreams as a Path to Self-Understanding	456
	Concluding Comments	460
	Where Can I Go From Here?	461
	Resources for Future Study	462
	References and Suggested Readings	464
	Index	471
	Photo Credits	476