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I | Laying the Foundation: Coping Successfully with Divorce | 1 |
1 | The Aftermath of Marriage | 3 |
The Impact of Separation and Divorce | 4 | |
Preseparation | 9 | |
Transition-Restructuring | 10 | |
Recovery-Rebuilding | 15 | |
Is Divorce Worth It? The Verdict Is ... | 16 | |
2 | Legal Fundamentals: What Everyone Should Know | 18 |
A Primer on Current Divorce Trends | 18 | |
Selecting an Attorney | 19 | |
Marital Settlement Agreements | 21 | |
Litigation | 22 | |
Divorce Mediation: An Alternative to an Adversarial Divorce | 23 | |
3 | Stress and the Emotional Roller Coaster: Tools to Cope | 27 |
Coping with Stress | 28 | |
Dealing with Anxiety | 31 | |
Feeling like a Robot: Is There a Person in There? | 35 | |
Sadness and Grief: The Importance of Mourning | 36 | |
Thoughts about Your Ex: "Am I Going Crazy?" | 37 | |
Feelings of Rejection, Worthlessness, and Failure | 39 | |
Euphoria: Why Can't It Always Be like This? | 40 | |
4 | Feeling Defeated and Immobilized: How to Combat Depression | 42 |
Taking Action | 43 | |
Doing a Tune-Up on Your Thinking | 46 | |
5 | What Do I Do with All This Anger? | 53 |
Where Does It All Come From? | 54 | |
When Anger Is Self-Defeating | 55 | |
How to Deal with Self-Defeating Anger and Let It Go | 57 | |
Dealing with "New" Anger Constructively | 64 | |
II | Children and Divorce | 67 |
6 | Divorce through a Child's Eyes | 69 |
Children's Divorce Experience | 70 | |
Is It Better to Divorce When Children Are One Age versus Another? | 78 | |
How Long Are Children Likely to Experience Problems? | 83 | |
"Should We Stay Together for the Children's Sake?" | 84 | |
7 | Critical Ingredients for Children's Adjustment | 86 |
Parents' Prolonged Conflict versus Cooperation | 87 | |
Children's Relationships with Both Parents | 88 | |
The Quality of Parenting and Stability in the Primary Home or Homes | 91 | |
Amount of Additional Stress in Children's Lives | 93 | |
Social Support | 96 | |
Temperament and Predivorce Adjustment | 96 | |
8 | Conflict! The Number One Predictor of Children's Poor Adjustment after Divorce | 98 |
How Children Experience Conflict | 99 | |
The Many Faces of Conflict: The Trauma of Being Caught in the Middle | 100 | |
The Nightmare of Transitions | 105 | |
Conflict's Repercussions for Children | 106 | |
Surviving the Conflict | 109 | |
Custody Battles: The Most Damaging of Postdivorce Conflicts | 111 | |
9 | Fostering Children's Long-Term Adjustment: A Step-by-Step Guide | 116 |
Starting Out Right | 117 | |
How to Create a Stable Home Life | 124 | |
How to Shore Up Your Relationship with Your Child | 128 | |
How to Become a Communication-Friendly Parent | 130 | |
Fostering Your Child's Relationship with the Other Parent | 131 | |
If the Other Parent Has Dropped Out | 134 | |
Limiting the Amount of Change in Children's Lives | 135 | |
Arranging Social Support for Children | 136 | |
Contain the Conflict! | 137 | |
Should You Seek Professional Help? | 137 | |
Divorce and the Steeling Effect | 139 | |
III | Rebuilding a Rewarding Single Life | 141 |
10 | Your Emotional Divorce: Stepping-Stone to a Rewarding New Life | 143 |
Setting the Stage: Separation | 144 | |
Early Steps | 146 | |
Disengaging from Your Spouse | 147 | |
Dislodging Your Spouse from Your Mind | 149 | |
Your Account | 150 | |
Mourning and Rituals | 152 | |
Letting Go of Your Anger | 154 | |
The Power of Forgiveness | 155 | |
The Role of Social Support | 156 | |
Reinvolving Yourself | 157 | |
Final Resolution | 158 | |
11 | Rebuilding | 161 |
Rebuilding Self-Esteem | 162 | |
Overcoming Your Identity Crisis | 165 | |
Coping with the Lonely Times | 167 | |
Building a New Social Support Network | 169 | |
Opportunities for Personal Growth | 171 | |
12 | Communicating with an Ex-Spouse: Ten Tools that Will Make the Difference | 173 |
Use "I" Messages | 174 | |
Turn Complaints into Requests | 175 | |
Attack the Problem, Not the Person | 176 | |
Offer Suggestions, Not Solutions | 177 | |
Tune Up Your Listening Skills | 178 | |
Avoid Button-Pushing Language | 178 | |
Be Respectful | 179 | |
Use Disarming Tools | 180 | |
How to Keep Your Cool | 180 | |
Use Effective Negotiating Tools | 181 | |
13 | New Romantic Relationships | 184 |
Building a Strong Foundation | 185 | |
What If There Are Children? | 187 | |
14 | How to Create a Successful One-Parent Home | 193 |
Creating a Home in Which Your Children Can Thrive | 193 | |
Creating a Home in Which a Single Parent Can Thrive | 200 | |
The Consequences of Growing Up in a One-Parent Home:Facts or Myths? | 206 | |
15 | The Parent without Custody: Dilemmas and Solutions | 207 |
The "Visitation" Dilemma | 207 | |
The Important Role of the Nonresident Parent | 209 | |
Solutions for the "Visitation" Dilemma | 210 | |
Parenting at a Distance | 215 | |
Parenting Young Children at a Distance | 217 | |
The Myth of the Inconsequential Parent | 219 | |
IV | Co-Parenting Children after Divorce | 221 |
16 | Custody: What's the Real Scoop? | 223 |
Legal Custody versus Physical Custody | 224 | |
Physical Custody: Joint versus Sole Custody | 225 | |
Mother Custody versus Father Custody | 230 | |
Split Custody: Should Siblings Stay Together? | 233 | |
17 | Parenting Plans: Blueprints for a Smooth Future | 236 |
The Nuts and Bolts of a Parenting Plan | 236 | |
Selecting a Parenting Schedule Tailored to Your Family | 244 | |
Guidelines for Children's Developmental Needs | 248 | |
18 | Making Co-Parenting Work | 253 |
How to Build a Co-Parenting Relationship | 255 | |
Seven Keys to Sound Co-Parenting | 260 | |
19 | Ending the Conflict: A Step-by-Step Approach | 268 |
High-Conflict Parents: Could This Be You? | 269 | |
Steps to Protect Children from Conflict | 271 | |
Steps to End the Conflict | 278 | |
Extraordinary Steps for Extraordinary Conflict | 284 | |
A Wise Step: Co-Parenting Counseling | 286 | |
20 | How to Discipline Effectively and Still Be a "Good Guy" | 288 |
Different Parenting Styles and Their Repercussions | 289 | |
The Principles of Positive Parenting | 290 | |
Discipline and Teens | 297 | |
Your Relationship with Your Children: The Foundation of Effective Discipline | 303 | |
V | Stepfamilies | 305 |
21 | Stepfamily Myths versus Stepfamily Reality | 307 |
Myth #1 | Remarriage Is Often Just What Is Needed to Help People Get Back on Their Feet after Divorce | 309 |
Myth #2 | When We Get Married We Will Have an Instant Family | 309 |
Myth #3 | When We Get Married the Children Will Be Able to Have a Traditional Family | 310 |
Myth #4 | Well-Adjusted People Can Adapt to Stepfamily Life after a Brief Adjustment Period | 312 |
22 | Losing Strategies: Eight Common Paths to Serious Stepfamily Problems | 316 |
Losing Strategy #1 | Trying to Replace the Out-of-Home Parent | 316 |
Losing Strategy #2 | Creating a False Sense of Togetherness | 318 |
Losing Strategy #3 | Forced Blending | 318 |
Losing Strategy #4 | Dramatically Changing Parent-Child Relationships | 319 |
Losing Strategy #5 | Assuming Authority Too Quickly | 320 |
Losing Strategy #6 | Resisting Family Blending | 321 |
Losing Strategy #7 | Trying to Shut Out the Out-of-Home Parent from Children's Lives | 322 |
Losing Strategy #8 | Denying Problems and Conflicts | 322 |
23 | Learning What Works: Successful Strategies for Stepfamilies | 324 |
Strategy #1 | Communicate Openly | 324 |
Strategy #2 | Set Realistic Family Goals | 327 |
Strategy #3 | Build a Strong Couple Relationship | 330 |
Strategy #4 | Move Slowly; Do Not Push | 331 |
Strategy #5 | Develop Your Own Unique Role with Your Stepchildren; Do Not Try to Replace Their Out-of-Home Parent | 335 |
Strategy #6 | Let the Biological Parent Handle Discipline While the Stepparent Bonds with Stepchildren | 336 |
Strategy #7 | Build a Family Identity | 338 |
Strategy #8 | Do Not Try to Shut Out the Out-of-Home Parent or Force Loyalty | 340 |
VI | Overview and Appendixes | 345 |
24 | Closing Remarks | 347 |
Appendix A | How to Make Changes in Your Life and Stick to Them | 353 |
Appendix B | Learning a Deep Relaxation Technique | 356 |
Appendix C | Sample Parenting Plans | 358 |
Appendix D | Suggested Reading | 363 |
Notes | 367 | |
Selected Sources | 369 | |
Index | 375 |
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