Secrets of better sex Book

Contents
INTRODUCTION v
AFTERPLAY 1
Five Hints for Sex-Enhancing Afterplay / 4
AGING 4
Women's Primary Concern About Sex and Aging / 6
Men's Primary Concern About Sex and Aging / 7
Five Easy Ways of Boosting Sexual Power / 7
ANAL SEX 8
Seven Important Guidelines for Anal Sex / 8
Three Alternatives to Anal Intercourse / 10
ANATOMY, SEXUAL 10
How to Teach Him About Your Genitals / 11
How to Teach Her About Your Genitals / 12
ANXIETY, PERFORMANCE 14
Five Tips for Overcoming Performance Anxiety / 15
APHRODISIACS 16
AROUSAL 17
The Step Beyond Desire / 17
Why You—Or Your Partner—Aren't Getting Excited About Sex / 18
When He Loses His Erection During Lovemaking / 19
The Four Keys to Male Arousal / 19
The Four Keys to Female Arousal / 21
The Secret to Increasing Arousal During Lovemaking / 21
ATTITUDES ABOUT SEX 21
The Thirteen Attitudes for Super Sex / 22
AURAL AROUSAL, THE STIMULATION OF SOUND 24
Six Hints for Erotic Expression / 25
BISEXUALITY 27
BODY IMAGE AND SEXUALITY 29
How You Feel About Your Body Affects Your Sexuality / 29
The Top Five Female Body Issues / 30
The Top Five Male Body Issues / 31
How You Can Learn to Love Your Body / 31
How You Can Help Your Partner Learn to Love His or Her Body / 32
BOREDOM, SEXUAL, OVERCOMING 32
Six Steps to Climbing Out of the Sexual Boredom Rut / 33
BREASTS 35
Top Six (Nonmedical) Breast Questions / 37
CALENDAR, CREATING A ROMANTIC 39
CELIBACY, CREATIVE 40
Why Do Some People Choose to Be Celibate? / 40
Should People Choose to Abstain from Sex? / 42
How Can People Handle Abstinence? / 42
Five Keys to Surviving aSexual Drought / 43
CHECKLIST, THE SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP 44
Twenty Questions About Sex / 44
CLITORAL STIMULATION 45
How to Make Love to a Clitoris / 46
COMMUNICATION 48
How Important Is Communication? / 48
Five Principles of Communication / 49
How to Discuss the Touchiest Sexual Issues / 50
The Secret to Creating Positive Sexual Change / 52
Seven Nonverbal Ways to Let Your Partner Know What You Want / 53
COMPULSIVE SEXUAL BEHAVIOR 53
CONDOMS 55
The Shoppers' Guide / 55
Ten Most Often Asked Condom Questions / 56
Condom Play: How to Incorporate Condom Use Into Loveplay / 58
Female Condom / 58
CONFLICT RESOLUTION 60
Six Steps for Conflict Resolution / 61
CUNNILINGUS 61
CYBERSEX 61
DESIRE 64
Six Tips for Handling Disparate Levels of Desire / 66
What Causes Loss of Desire? / 67
DIVORCE, IMPACT ON SEXUALITY 68
Ten Steps to Becoming Sexually Active After Divorce / 70
DYSFUNCTION, SEXUAL 71
EJACULATION 72
Premature Ejaculation / 72
Three Techniques for Curing Premature Ejaculation / 74
Delayed Ejacualtion or Male Orgasmic Disorder / 74
How to Handle Male Orgasmic Disorder / 76
Female Ejaculation / 76
ERECTION 77
Anatomy of an Erection / 77
What Men Say About Erections / 78
Four Steps for Handling Your Erection Difficulties / 78
Four Steps for Helping Him Handle His Erection Difficulties / 79
EROTICA 79
Ten of the Best Books and Videos Aimed at Women and Couples / 81
EXERCISE 81
EXTRAMARITAL AFFAIRS 81
Top Eight Reasons People Have Affairs / 81
Types of Affairs / 82
Five Most Commonly Asked Questions About Affairs / 85
FANTASY, SEXUAL 89
What Fantasies Are and What They Are Not / 89
Why They're Good for You and When They're Not / 92
Top Ten Sexual Fantasies / 92
Should You Share or Act Out Sexual Fantasies With Your Partner? / 94
FEAR, OVERCOMING 95
Five Fears to Overcome for Great Sex / 95
FELLATIO 96
FETISHISM 96
FLIRTING 98
Five Rules of Flirting / 100
FOREPLAY 100
Seven Tips for Hotter Foreplay / 101
FREQUENCY OF LOVEMAKING, AND HOW TO INCREASE 103
Six Sexual Energizers / 104
G SPOT 106
What Women Say About Their G Spots / 107
How to Stimulate Her G Spot / 107
GENDER ROLE EXPECTATIONS 107
Three Keys to Becoming a More Complete Lover / 109
GUILT, OVERCOMING 109
Three Suggestions for Overcoming Guilt / 111
HEALTH AND SEXUALITY 112
Four Health Steps for Enhancing Sexuality / 113
HOMOSEXUALITY 114
Five Questions Most Often Asked by Heterosexuals About Homosexuality / 114
HORMONES 116
HOT SPOTS 118
Five Hot Areas / 118
HYSTERECTOMY, AFFECT ON SEXUALITY 119
What Happens to a Woman's Sexuality Following a Hysterectomy / 119
How to Handle Post-Surgery Loss of Libido / 121
ILLNESS AND DISABILITY 122
Seven Steps to Restoring Sexual Responsiveness / 123
IMPOTENCE 124
Five Steps a Man Can Take to Restore Sexual Function / 126
Five Steps a Woman Can Take to Help Restore a Man's Sexual Functioning / 127
INFERTILITY 127
Five Ways to Make Sex Hotter While Trying to Conceive / 128
INTERCOURSE 129
Seven Ways of Enhancing Intercourse / 130
INTIMACY 131
What Is Intimacy? / 131
How to Overcome His (or Your ) Fear of Intimacy / 133
JEALOUSY, SEXUAL 134
Five Steps to Defusing Jealousy / 136
JOY BREAK 137
KEGELS 140
How to Exercise Your Love Muscles / 141
KINKY SEX 142
Five Most Common Forms of Kinky Sexplay / 143
KISSING 145
Six Essential Kissing Tips / 147
LOVEBITES 148
Five Best Spots to Lovebite / 149
LOVEMAPS 149
What Is a Lovemap? / 149
Three Steps for Creating a New and Positive Lovemap / 151

LUBRICATION 152
Four Steps to Take in Relieving Vaginal Dryness / 153
MARRIAGE, (AND/OR MONOGAMY) SPICING UP 155
Five Steps to Rekindling Marital (Monogamous) Sex / 156
Beyond Bubble Baths and Lingerie: Twelve Less Obvious Ideas for Reviving a Tired Sex Life / 157
MARRIAGE, OPEN 158
Essential Open Marriage Questions / 159
MARRIAGE, SEXLESS 159
Five Steps for Putting Sex Back in Your Marriage / 161
MASSAGE, EROTIC 161
Six Steps to an Erotic Massage / 162
MASTURBATION 163
Top Ten Questions About Masturbation / 164
MEDICATIONS, PRESCRIBED, SEXUAL EFFECT OF 167
Medication Action List / 169
MENTAL HEALTH, EFFECT ON SEXUALITY 170
Five Steps to Shaking off the Sexual Blahs / 171
MENOPAUSE, EFFECT ON SEXUALITY 173
Eight Steps to Maintaining Sexual Responsiveness During and After Menopause / 174
MENOPAUSE, MALE 175
Ten Steps to Alleviating the Male Midlife Crisis / 177
MYTHS, SEXUAL 178
Top Ten Myths About Sex / 178
NONCOITAL SEX 180
Five Ways of Having Sex Without Penetration / 181
OVERCOMING OBSTACLES TO GOOD SEX, DAILY 183
Twenty Suggestions for Overcoming Daily Obstacles to Sex / 184
ORAL SEX 186
How to Get A Reluctant Partner to Give and Receive
Oral Sex / 187
Six Steps for Performing Cunnilingus / 188
Three Tips for Receiving Cunnilingus / 188
Six Steps for Performing Fellatio / 189
Three Tips for Receiving Fellatio / 190
ORGASM 190
What Is An Orgasm? / 190
Male Orgasm / 192
Four Techniques for Delaying Orgasm / 193
Female Orgasm / 194
How Can A Woman Experience Orgasm During Intercourse? / 195
Behavior Traits of Easily Orgasmic Women / 196
Theories About Orgasm / 197
Secret to the Simultaneous Orgasm / 198
Multiple Orgasm / 198
How Women Can Experience Multiple Orgasms / 199
How Men Can Experience Multiple Orgasms / 199
The Perineum Halt: How She Can Help / 200
Extragenital Orgasm / 201
Spontanious Orgasm / 201
Whole-Body Orgasm / 201
Why Faked Orgasms / 202
PAINFUL INTERCOURSE, DYSPAREUNIA 203
PARAPHILIAS 205
What Is a Paraphilia? / 205
What Causes Paraphilias? / 206
What Are the Treatments? / 207
PERFORMANCE ANXIETY 207
PEYRONIE'S DISEASE 207
PLAYING HARD TO GET 208
PORNOGRAPHY 209
POSITIONS, INTERCOURSE 209
Advantages, Disadvantages, and Variations of the Six Basic Intercourse Positions / 210
PREGNANCY 215
How Does Pregnancy Affect Sexuality? / 215
How Does Childbirth Affect Sexuality? / 216
Five Rules for Lovemaking During Pregnancy and After Childbirth / 217
PREMENSTRUAL SYNDROME (PMS) AND SEXUALITY 218
Three Tips for Managing Cycles of Desire / 219
PROSTATE PROBLEMS AND SEXUALITY 219
Five Steps for Handling Prostate Problems / 220
QUICKIES 221
RECOVERY SEX 222
Five Steps to Recovery Sex / 222
Sexual Aftershock of Abortion / 223
Ten Steps to Assist Healing and Restore Sexuality / 224
Sexual Abuse / 225
What to Do If You or Your Partner Has Been Abused / 226
Alcohol and Drug Abuse's Effect on Sexuality / 226
Rape / 229
Five Steps to Helping Yourself (or Your Partner) Become Fully Sexual Again / 230
ROMANCE 230
Six Ways to Keep (Or Put Back) the Romance in Your Relationship / 234
SAFE SEX 235
Sex Activities in Ascending Order of Risk / 236
SEASONAL SEXUAL SLUMP 236
SECRETS, SEXUAL 238
Five Keys to Sharing Sexual Secrets / 240
SENSUALITY 240
Five Exercises for Awakening Sensuality / 243
SEX EDUCATION 243
Top Ten Questions Parents of Children and Teens Have About Sex / 244
SEX THERAPY 246
Five Warning Signs Indicating Therapy is Needed / 248
SEX TOYS 249
Five Tips for Enhancing Couple's Vibrator Use / 250
SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASES AND SEXUALITY 251
Top Five Questions People Have about STDs / 251
AIDS / 252
SMOKING, EFFECT ON SEXUALITY 254
TAOIST AND TANTRIC SEX, OR EASTERN SEXUAL TECHNIQUES 255
Four Eastern Sex Techniques Any Couple Can Use / 256
TEENAGE SEX 257
Five Crucial Teen Sex Guidelines / 259
TRUST 259
Trust Scale / 260
What Your Answers Mean / 262
VAGINISMUS 266
Eight Steps for Curing Vaginismus / 267
WET DREAMS 268
ZIPLESS SEX OR QUICKIES 269
Five Golden Rules of Quickies / 270
INDEX 273