101 Questions to Ask before You Get Engaged Book

This book is fantastic.
When my husband was courting me (yes I use the word court, because marriage was our goal from the day we met each other and we weren't able to date in the 'normal' sense) we went over this book of 101 questions to ask each other. Covering topics like

- How we were raised, our family dynamics, our expectations of family and marriage
- Former dating/marital/sexual relationships if there were any
- Our view of the church, Jesus, denomination, doctrine, other religions etc
- Expectations of behaviour, roles in a spouse
- Habitual sin, former abuse issues
- Our views on sex, children, finances, health, aging etc
- And other simple little dating questions like preferences re leisure activities, food, books, movies, music etc

Instead of prenup agreements I rechon this book should be compulsory reading to EVERY couple who want to get a wedding licence and get married. Its great. If you go over the questions with someone you figure out pretty quickly whether things will work out in the long run or not.

My husband and I met online in September 2009. By December he arrived in New Zealand to meet me and after two weeks of that visit we fell in love with each other. During our online friendship I had already asked him questions about those sorts of topics and after his visit we knew we would pursue engagement and marriage and this book really helped us run a fine comb over our relationship since we knew we would have to spend our entire "dating" relationship apart in two different countries. That entire period was spent in pre arranging our marriage pretty much. By the time he moved to New Zealand a year later, we sat down with a older couple in our church who put us through extensive separate premarital tests and they told us we were the first case they had seen to ace it (we scored in the 90-100% margin for compatibility re agreement on issues) all thanks to this book that we read prior to our engagement.

I totally recommend it.
Even if your dating the 'normal' way and don't want to freak out the one your with with intensive questions, you can still discuss them by changing how you tone them and put them into conversation. But if they sideline these questions and refuse to answer them, run away! You have the right to know what you're getting into..